Can we have some manners please?
Finally i got back into the mood of writing about something which i notice all around me.
It’s all nice to see fb posts, or articles saying don’t teach me how to raise my kid, if i have to start, i’ll end up telling how flawed you have raised your son that i am finding it difficult to correct him now etc!!
And i am not here to comment about how each one should bring up their kid , because neither i have kids nor the experience to advice someone else.
I have to word each and every sentence carefully else each and every new age mom will come running behind me with a machete ! Hehe 😂
Probably this post would be more about my observations and rants !
I keep attending a lot of functions and i see 2 different kind of kids, no 3 actually! One who is completely anti social , other who is completely ill mannered and parents struggling to control them in public , 3 rd are the ones who don’t attend, (the parents give excuse of missing out on portions in lkg ) . I am not gonna talk about the 3rd 🤐 ! No I don’t wanna comment about that !
Anti social kids are somewhat better than the 2nd category. They don’t atleast manatha vangify parents maanam in front of public.
Now coming to the ill mannered kids, no they are not the ones who are shouting and running around in the mandabams.
Those are the kind who use words like poda and podi for addressing their parents in front of others and laugh and if anybody else tries to correct them, they are also greeted with a poda/podi don’t interfere.
They keep hitting unknown people, calling them names, describing their build and bullying them.i am talking about kids who are as old as 8 or 9 . Parents just keep watching and they either scold them or laugh at them ( i dunno for what and it’s definitely not cute) .
I wondered my generation as kids, we were more warm, friendly, well mannered. Why was that? Weren’t we pampered? Definitely yes. Why aren’t the parents these days able to control their kids?
The moment we tried being naughty , a stare from our dads made sure we were at our best behaviour even if we tried taking our moms lightly.
Then I realised, we have forgotten what has to be termed as cute and where a line has to be drawn. Another thing i noticed, in all the houses , when mothers gave respect to dad in front of their children, , it was easier for those mothers and fathers to handle kids in case of bad behaviours.
Our current generation , in the journey of seeking equality think disrespecting the male spouses in front of kids is also allowed.. It was not just one case but among many cases i noticed, the mothers address the father using words such as vaada /poda/ dei in front of their kids not realizing, the kids are watching and learning. Parents should be more careful in not using such words in front of kids.
I dunno why somehow moms have always been lineant or characters who are not taken that seriously for the past so many generations. But atleast in our generation, moms used the trump card of a strict dad , the head of the family , to make sure the children were disciplined. There was some kind of fear and definitely that fear was for the good.
Now there’s no such proper structure in our current generation. Both spouses don’t respect each other in front of kids, few knowingly and few unknowingly.
Trying to bring up their child with their monetary support alone. Rewarding the kids materialistically with a guilt of not able to be physically present with their kids.
Preventing their children from attending functions and moving with people. Not Teaching them it is ok if they dont receive the full attendance certificate for that year.
Without teaching them people’s skills at home, not letting them learn themselves by attending public functions, it is of no use getting a full attendance certificate which they think is a great sign of being disciplined.
Children have to be taught manners. New generation parents need to recall their old manners for the sake of kids.
Children need to be taught to greet elders when they come home. There are so many complaints that lot of children, open the door, don’t even look at their faces, turn around and go inside their rooms.
Parents should teach them to smile and welcome the guest/relative before locking themselves in their rooms.
No amount of marks/ prizes/ awards can justify bad manners/behaviour.
I feel very sad sometimes because as new generation parents we have forgotten to prioritise well ☹️ .
It’s all nice to see fb posts, or articles saying don’t teach me how to raise my kid, if i have to start, i’ll end up telling how flawed you have raised your son that i am finding it difficult to correct him now etc!!
And i am not here to comment about how each one should bring up their kid , because neither i have kids nor the experience to advice someone else.
I have to word each and every sentence carefully else each and every new age mom will come running behind me with a machete ! Hehe 😂
Probably this post would be more about my observations and rants !
I keep attending a lot of functions and i see 2 different kind of kids, no 3 actually! One who is completely anti social , other who is completely ill mannered and parents struggling to control them in public , 3 rd are the ones who don’t attend, (the parents give excuse of missing out on portions in lkg ) . I am not gonna talk about the 3rd 🤐 ! No I don’t wanna comment about that !
Anti social kids are somewhat better than the 2nd category. They don’t atleast manatha vangify parents maanam in front of public.
Now coming to the ill mannered kids, no they are not the ones who are shouting and running around in the mandabams.
Those are the kind who use words like poda and podi for addressing their parents in front of others and laugh and if anybody else tries to correct them, they are also greeted with a poda/podi don’t interfere.
They keep hitting unknown people, calling them names, describing their build and bullying them.i am talking about kids who are as old as 8 or 9 . Parents just keep watching and they either scold them or laugh at them ( i dunno for what and it’s definitely not cute) .
I wondered my generation as kids, we were more warm, friendly, well mannered. Why was that? Weren’t we pampered? Definitely yes. Why aren’t the parents these days able to control their kids?
The moment we tried being naughty , a stare from our dads made sure we were at our best behaviour even if we tried taking our moms lightly.
Then I realised, we have forgotten what has to be termed as cute and where a line has to be drawn. Another thing i noticed, in all the houses , when mothers gave respect to dad in front of their children, , it was easier for those mothers and fathers to handle kids in case of bad behaviours.
Our current generation , in the journey of seeking equality think disrespecting the male spouses in front of kids is also allowed.. It was not just one case but among many cases i noticed, the mothers address the father using words such as vaada /poda/ dei in front of their kids not realizing, the kids are watching and learning. Parents should be more careful in not using such words in front of kids.
I dunno why somehow moms have always been lineant or characters who are not taken that seriously for the past so many generations. But atleast in our generation, moms used the trump card of a strict dad , the head of the family , to make sure the children were disciplined. There was some kind of fear and definitely that fear was for the good.
Now there’s no such proper structure in our current generation. Both spouses don’t respect each other in front of kids, few knowingly and few unknowingly.
Trying to bring up their child with their monetary support alone. Rewarding the kids materialistically with a guilt of not able to be physically present with their kids.
Preventing their children from attending functions and moving with people. Not Teaching them it is ok if they dont receive the full attendance certificate for that year.
Without teaching them people’s skills at home, not letting them learn themselves by attending public functions, it is of no use getting a full attendance certificate which they think is a great sign of being disciplined.
Children have to be taught manners. New generation parents need to recall their old manners for the sake of kids.
Children need to be taught to greet elders when they come home. There are so many complaints that lot of children, open the door, don’t even look at their faces, turn around and go inside their rooms.
Parents should teach them to smile and welcome the guest/relative before locking themselves in their rooms.
No amount of marks/ prizes/ awards can justify bad manners/behaviour.
I feel very sad sometimes because as new generation parents we have forgotten to prioritise well ☹️ .
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