Don't let others influence your priorities in life!

I seriously got fed up reading posts and articles where they mentioned how sad it is to see women choosing to leave their career to take care of family. How such a talented, highly qualified friend/cousin of theirs became a housewife and how the society looks down at a woman who choses family over career.
Making such a woman a coward is total BS !

Our generation is going mad, going nowhere. Nobody thinks about their priorities in life.

High time people understand they shouldnt confuse between capability and priorities in life.

What do i see around me? A huge group of highly talented, highly successful , high earning ladies giving up their jobs post marriage due to the reasons known very well to them prior marriage.

Then why does the society blame the parents/in laws or the husband when the girl conciously takes the decision to marry despite the possible odds post marriage?

I agree there are a lot of women who have no say in the marriage, but why are the ladies from liberal families whining about it ?

What is education? Not something which helps us earn money, not something which gives us an identity, it is something which actually makes the individual to think understand and apply in our daily lives to lead a better and a fulfilling life.

It helps the individual to evolve mentally. It helps in making the individual mature.

Identity is for the self. Many ladies have misunderstood it as something to be proven to the society.

Women need to understand the difference between working and being career oriented.

We just cant have everything in life. If career is what we want, we must never choose marriage or children then blame parents or in laws or husband for not being supportive post wedding.

If career is what you want, be clear of your expectations post marriage regarding supporting your career prior saying a yes to marry someone.

Ladies should understand having a baby comes with lot of responsibilities post marriage. If you are not ready to give in extra time and effort please don't have a baby until you are ready.

Our society is still evolving. You just cant expect to change the mentality of people overnight..  dont crib and cry if your husband doesnt believe in being equal partners according to your definition.

Be firm and steady of getting married only if your husband promises equality according to your definition.

I hear about so many children these days wearing diapers till their 1st std. I see many children not able to talk till the age of 2.
Children need your time and effort more than your jobs/career.  If you cannot do justice, don't put them in a day care centre. Instead don't plan a family and stop contributing to the population explosion. Your career needs you more than the babies.

Afforability depends on the individual lifestyle. Living beyond your means prevents you from giving time for your baby.

There is no pity for a woman who knowingly gets into a marriage where there are old fashioned in laws/husband then blames everybody around her for her spoilt/discontinued career.

The saddest part of a large group of so called modern women, they were all made self equipped by their parents. Unfortunately the parents have forgotton to teach them the skill of choosing the priorities according to their life/family at various point of life.

If family/marriage is not your first priority or if you cant happily take a break in your career for your baby or other necessary reasons, then marriage should be your last priority .

Don't marry for social obligation because you are the person who is gonna live. If you are not clear about your priorities, you will end up miserable and make others around you also miserable.

This way we all can prevent depression among so many married women and save neglected kids in our country !

You don't have to create an identity for the society. If identity is what you seek, marriage is not your identity.   PERIOD.