Matrimonially disqualified

Welcome to the world of tambram matrimony... You are a girl? very good...  you are professionally qualified? errr what is that... BE.. CA...MBA ( distance learning accepted even if it is not recognised anywhere else) ..  is CIMA ok? ( seema next house girl?)  ok leave it...  CPA? ( chitappa va stylish ah kupadriya? ) vidungo! ... Slim ? ( My son expects only a slim girl.. )  Fair ( White girlu heart blacku even after this? ) height 5'5 ? 5'6 ? My son 5'7.. very tall and handsome... ( oh where i cant find him anywhere in the pic you sent )   ...

all these are basic expectations.. here is the main expectation...  homely working girl... uh what?? homely or working.? working of course what a question that too in this generation... oh your son is in need of money? no no he is earning 12 + laksh per annum.. oh then does he have any loan to be paid off? no no we are very well settled.. we have our own house,car.. no loan.. oh then why working girl? for the girl to be occupied ... ohh ok isn't that supposed to be her decision how to keep herself occupied? occupied with an advantage = working..  wow whatte tambram brain?! your son works in a different city n my daughters office is not there in that city so she would be automatically leaving her job.... not a problem we have lotta contacts we can get your daughter a job ( err did we ask you?) .. My daughter is not a career oriented woman... oh no you have brought up your daughter with wrong values... nowadays two of them have to work to have a luxurious lifestyle .. ( aren't you people supposed to be very well settled with properties, son earning very well and still you cant afford an extra member in your family ) oh no my daughter is gonna get married to a guy from a very poor family who expects her to keep herself occupied by working and earning for them.. on a serious note.. guys even specify the amount of salary the girl should earn !!sigh!!  hello are you looking out for your daughter? yes.. what has she done.. blah blah blah... oh very nice very good.. where is she working? she is not working and she doesn have any plans of a career.. she plans to get married and take care of the family.. ! ohh so rare to find such a girl these days!very good.. what all does she know?! she knows cooking... she is an artist.. she can do this she can do that... oh she is so talented but she doesn wanna work?(would talent be recognised only if it fetches you money) or probably we can convince her to work later?!!

You are a boy? very very good... professionally qualified? Am BE,CA,MBA enough na?! No no BE from BITS,IIT,NIT?  CA first attempt?gold medalist? only CA?.. MBA From IIMs,SP jains, MS from harvard,stanford, Phds from ...... blah blah (  Gender Discrimination?) Ponnuku idhu ellam avasiyam ille pa.. as a guy you gotta earn for the family... she doesn even have the necessity to work ( BUt do you really give girls a choice? ) Fair,Tall,handsome... girls - what do we do with all these without the above mentioned expectations?! Salary - 5 lakhs - 6 lakhs .. girls -  per month would be fine ?? grrr....  Business .. am an entrepreneur.. ( avlo than ivanuku kalyanam panni kudutha kaasu pona namba ponnu road ku vandhuda vendi than ) .. You see the scenario now in india is not favourable for running a successful business and we expect to get my daughter married to a guy who earns steady income!? sir i don have plans of settling abroad.. - enna pa idhu.. you are a young enterprising man you should go abroad and earn and enjoy your life and not waste your life earning bits and pieces here in india! My daughter always wanted to settle in the US.. !..

Plight of a tambram entrepreneur - Hello sir we are running a business.. We have had an established business and this is our 3rd generation..  We have our only son who is the heir to all our property... We liked your daughters profile ..  Sure .. i would like to ask you questions about your business before getting in detail about the matrimony .. What is the turn over of your company ? How many partners do you have? Is it a family owned business?Does your brothers son take care of it too? What is the share of your son in the business? During the recession lotsa business got affected. how come yours survived? what is the guarantee you wont go in for losses again if another recession comes?What is the loan amount you have taken? have you pledged any property? What is your sons qualification? bcom and mba.. from which univ? he went to UK for his masters.. girls dad - most of the MBAs there are not recognised.. but sir my son is not looking for a job. its for his interest. what if your business closes down how will your son ever get a job to support a family with his UK qualifications?!I am a chartered accountant and i have been seeing so many such cases in my lifetime.. and anyways.. we are not interested to give my daughter to a businessman! ( idha munnadiye sollirkalame :P )

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Comments

Anonymous said…
I don't understand your intense aversion to work... Working earns you the right to consume. I can't live off of someone else, it is insulting to my capabilities. I feel each and everyone should learn and manage a life, in a self-sufficient manner. Choosing not to have a conventionally constructed 'career' is fine... but to not work at all, is something I can't imagine.
Madhusunda said…
lol.. could i know the identity of the above person?do i know you?! if yes would love to know who :)everybody is entitled to their opinions.. Its not aversion towards work ... i don't find the necessity to for both to work.. one person has to look after the house and family.. and here i have mentioned .. only against the attitude towards compelling someone.. and considering it as a prerequisite for getting married.. i never said girls should stay at home.. its individuals decision and right.. and its a decision made by the couple and not a mandatory condition for marriage.. living off someone else?weren we all doing that with our parents till we grew up?! and relationship should be symbiotic ( mutually benefitial) which doesnt not denote monetary part alone...
Anonymous said…
Good to hear these frm a Girl. Haven't seen many girls with such a clear cut understanding of one's self !! I'm sure one day you'll be proud of your choices. Prakash.M.S.
Anonymous said…
No, you don't know me... Came across your blog randomly. Living off of parents unfortunately is something you can't help, atleast till you are an adult. After which I feel I shouldn't depend on them. I personally can't imagine a person's entire life to be centered around house and family. Just seems a little trivial, when compared to the limitless possibilities of human life. Ofcourse, it is one's choice. I don't mean to infringe on your right to choose... this is just my opinion.
Anonymous said…
do you think it is a different story among non tambrahms? Or, you have absolutely no idea about what happens there that you stuck to tambrahm community in what looks like a slightly generic topic?
Madhusunda said…
@above anonymous - yes definitely its a generic topic!! since am more familiar with what happens in a typical tambram scene i have written about it! :)

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