love marriages,arranged marriages,life...relationships...

hey guys...... suddenly was in a mood to write a blog.....hmmm..... marriage season everywhere...... i keep hearing.. she has got engaged... he's got engaged... did u know she's marryin her boyfriend.... man bad luck.. her parents dint agree.... so she's getting married to another fellow... !!will she be happy?god knows/... n who cares as long as the parents are happy!!.... hmmmm..... hey even i wanna get married its so exciting when i hear bout the fun in shoppin... n the importance given... hey come on you r just 22 n why do u wanna get married so early.. enjoy life n get married two years later.... did u know she got married one year back na she's already pregnant!!!!!OMG is she mad or wat ...its too early to have a kid!!!!mind your own business she's married and its her decision....hey am really interested in gettin married but my parents r not at all listenin to me :(:( hahaha seriously its fun to listen to all such different dialogues from various ppl....

i see two kinds of people out there.......... no no 3... no no 5 ... ugghhhhh... ok many kinda ppl.... one interested in getting married as early as possible.... ( i wanna get out of this house as soon as possible and enjoi .. parents r way too strict) .. hahaha poor ppl they get married to escape from parents pressure... is marriage the solution??? hahaha dunno .. lets see that... another person.... am career oriented i wanna get myself professionally qualified and then get married so that ill be independent enough to handle my problems later....( to husb : damn it!u r not d bloody engineer on earth am one too.... i know wat to do...)... ummm..... nice...... another kind... marriage n me???huh hahahaha wat am i gonna do gettin married??funny ppl... askin me to get married..hahaha.... i hav a job to do... why do i wanna lay trap for myself??TRAP???( ahh the guy/ or gurl is saved by not marryin u,wat'll they do gettin married to someone lik u??) .... another kind i don believe in arranged marriages they fail coz there's no understanding.....( all marriages fail if there's no understanding..)... another.... love marriages.. r u crazy??do u know love marriages also ends in a failure these days????tats cuz there's complete mismatch ( in wat??) n parents dun support if we hav a problem.......am intelligent u see.. ill hav an arranged marriage.. if there's some problem i hav my parents.. i can blame them n they'll support me for sure... ( aah!!intelligent ppl.... they hav an arranged marriage just to put the blame on parents.. hahah gr8... don anyone realize.. by blaming parents n goin back home solves the issue?y i ?no... they hav to take steps in improvin relationships, be it arranged or love marriage.!! ).. another kind...... this is y i dun believe in marriages at all.. best is live in relationships... no commitment n full fun!!!( fun turns disastrous if either one of them becomes serious and the other person moves on) ...... hmmmm...... so much of demand for marriage counselors ...... marriages r failin.,.. doesn matter if its a love marriage or an arranged marriage... ppl need counselors to improve their relationships..... parents... some r innocent... some r confused... some play a major role in the failing relationships... wrong advices.... i have heard parents say... its not your fate to adjust n stay with tat useless fellow... u r educated.. u r independent.... u can work n support yrself.... why don many such parents tell.. no matter however independent u r... u need to take efforts in improvin the relationship!!am not talking bout improvin relationship with psycho's who beat them up .. its bout those who have problems in adjusting... why is tat ppl get bored of relationships.. bored of marriages... y those extra marital affairs...?here now i get reminded of one incident which i heard... a couple who loved each other for lik 7 yrs.. got married n within a year the guy gets into depression and divorces her after so much of counsellin given to both..cuz his wife has an extra marital affair....yes.........an affair but with another gurl!!man.... was tat guy dumb that he dint even know bout his gurl's sexual orientation?!poor fellow.... its not that ppl with different sexual orientation are suffering.. they also make other suffer lik the above example.. ( save us from forcing us to marry the opposite sex or save us from bein forced to marry the same sex)... hmmmm...

ok let me come to love marriages...

trust me tats d best way to stay married if u love someone!!!loving includes... understanding ,adjusting ,giving space ,(it includes both the guy n gurl and their familes) BOTH BEFORE AND AFTER MARRIAGE.... to make it successful even after d wedding.... the way ppl handle love marriages,.... makes a big difference in life..... convo... hello sir .. do u know my daughter jus told me and my wife that she loves a boy who doesn belong to our caste... MR.SIR: y r u so worried.. its become so common now.. every house has a love marriage.... we also should be broadminded enough to accept them cuz oly their happiness finally matters!!hmmm ok sir will think and come to a conclusion... 2 MR.SIR's house... MRS.SIR... do u know our daughter is also in love with a guy not from our caste?!! WTF??love in my house???i wont let t happen..... hahahaha happens in lotta houses.. easy to advice others but tough wen we face it... another issue... a major problem if one is a vegetarian and other person is a non vegetarian.... the vegetarian person(lets take it as a gurl)tells the other(the boy)... do u love me?? yes.. very much?? yes... wil u do wateva i ask u to do??yeah your wish is my command.. good.. pls stop eating non veg for me....uh wat??non veg? ya.. u r killing animals... u ppl r committing sins..... ok now should i stop eating it cuz am comitting a sin or cuz i love u?no cuz u love me... ok ... done.. ill never go near non veg!!!good am so proud of u.... tat person : hey macha,.. chicken manchurian was sexy!!!err..... (the gurl standin behind him) shit.. i am sorry i dint see u.. i dint mean to break the promise..... shut up.. u promised n u broke it.... how can i believe tat u love me truly?!!wait a min... ppl its maddening... tat very question creates problems in life!!!i can see so many such instances... where ppl hav to realize eating non veg is not a big thing....there can be an understanding where they can say eat non veg wen am not der n dun cook at home!!!they must understand its applicable only to him n not his family... n its not nice to take him away from his family jus cos they cook non veg at home n u cant stand t...wen u r broadminded enough to love a person who eats non veg .. u must also be broadminded enough to let him eat what he likes.... and wat he's been eating from wen he's born.... ok we'll discuss another blog oly about love marriages... next movin on to arranged marriages.

horoscopes match.... boy sees gurl... gurl sees boy... coffee bajji sojji..... den they ask time to talk with each other..... prolly they go for a drive.... or they r given a room to talk... or thru phone or skype... lotta ppl... discuss bout what they like.... some ppl put in conditions.... they see their comfort level in talkin n bein with each other.....some decide in d day.. some take a week... some a month also!!my question is wen ppl say its been twenty whole years n i still dint understand u.... how can anyone understand in just one meeting or talking ofr a week or a month... dun u feel everything's d same!!!???

i was discussing all these with my friend... she was like ... mad u r talking lik a psychologist... don u think this profession would have suited u...????!!!u could have done that course!!!ohhh noooo..... as always i remained as the professionally confused.... law n CA inspired n discontinued,qualified fashion designer n an entrepreneur to be n a unqualified suggested psychologist!!!!lolz..... cheers to my seasonal joblessness.. which leads me to write this blog!!!